This week’s interview is with Ben Barbic. Ben is an incredible Goal Achiever who creates music to help people overcome struggles and thrive in life. He’s been recording music since 5 years old and works relentlessly to continue to improve his musical identity and authenticity.
Ben has quickly gained a substantial internet fan base, national and international airplay, multiple interviews and reviews, placement in theatrical performances, placement in mixtapes, placement in movies and even had a song added to the curriculum of a college class dealing with addiction.
The Achievers Story
Tell us who you are, where you’re from and something that people would find interesting about you?
My name is Ben Barbic from San Jose California and I am extremely passionate about never giving up on your goals in life.
Give us a brief overview about the goal you achieved and why it was so important?
I have achieved the goal musical success. For me I’ve been a musician my whole life. I always believed in my heart that eventually I would reach a level of success in music. So, I really always pushed forward believing it was a matter of time till it happened. Over the last year I have seen so many things come together and really feel a great peace and sense of accomplishment every time a song is on the radio, I do an interview or another great artist wants to work together. This really helped give me the self-esteem to feel confident in my work.
Every story has a beginning, middle, and an end; where we’ve been, where we’re going, and everything in between. Give us an example of what your life was like before achieving this goal?
Before achieving my goal of musical success, I held a sense of bitterness and jealousy for the people who had achieved success in music. I couldn’t even listen to some songs because they reminded me of where I should be and where I wasn’t. I really felt a sense of “he will never make it” around me and it made me feel very insecure.
Help us understand what caused you to move in a different direction?
I decided that everything I do I will do 100%. One day I looked in the mirror and didn’t like what I saw. I felt like a damaged shell of my former self. Basically, I told myself “that’s it”! This was the day I made a complete change. It was 2008. I went back to school and got a degree in psychology, started running half marathons, did meditation daily, started eating healthy foods only, and most importantly, went full force into music. I would make music even if it meant only getting 2 or 3 hours sleep. No matter what, I pushed forward. I pushed through self-doubt. I pushed through thoughts of “it’s too late”, and “I’m not good enough”. This doubt actually made me charge harder because I refused to let that inner voice talk me out of my mission.
Give us an example of what your life is like today, since achieving the goal?
Really amazing. Everyday I receive compliments from people all over the world about how much my music has helped them. I feel a sense of connection to people and a feeling like we are all in this together. Also an interesting thing is becoming comfortable dealing with people at the top of the music game. At first I would get really nervous feeling like I didn’t belong, but now I have the self-confidence to think I belong in the room. For example, today I had an interview on iHeart Radio, finalized the script for my next music video to a song called ‘Too Scared’ (dealing with people having the courage to go after their goals ironically) and locked in my part of a performance in a movie being shot in Miami in August by a great friend of mine. I’m not saying this to brag, but to paint a picture as to what I have manifested out of my efforts. A few years ago this was all a dream. I went from a place of despair to now my days are so rewarding.
Overcoming The Obstacles
If there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that obstacles like fear, time and money among other things can prevent us from or motivate us towards achieving goals. What are the top 3 obstacles you faced, why were they obstacles to begin with, and how were they conquered?
Money was a significant part because you have to justify your time being put to something that in the beginning makes no money. What I found though is the better I did at music, the easier it was to make money in all efforts because my self-esteem would rise. So they are connected. If you want to be better at your day job, improve at your passion and then you will always have in the back of your head the satisfaction of progress in your life’s purpose. No matter how stressful work is you have this wonderful thing to hold onto.
Fear is something that you can use as motivation. Call out your inner fear and take it out! I did. The more fear you have the more you should get mad that that inner voice is preventing you from being the ideal you. Sometimes the fear can be overwhelming, basically rendering you paralyzed to act. I have found this always subsides and once you overcome your fear the joy of overcoming this obstacle is immense. Before my first interview live on radio I was really nervous to the point of almost not wanting to do it. But after it was finished, I realized that I overcame the fear and completed the goal. From that first interview, I now no longer have the fear. So take every opportunity because even if you are less than perfect just saying yes and doing it is a major win and you will feel great that you stepped up and did it.
Time is one that I feel people use as an excuse. I have as well. But, what I notice is I’ve almost always seen time in people’s lives to devote to their goals. Again this is something that becomes a crutch. I’ve got no time really should be changed to I don’t want to take the time. If you want it you can get it done. Period. There are friends and family to watch kids, days off work, the hour or two at night watching tv can be replaced by focusing on your goal.
The next part of the interview is the Triumph. The triumph is all about taking the success of achievement to the next level of personal greatness. The idea of greatness can be different for everyone. For me, greatness is all about the pursuit rather than the destination. What does greatness mean to you and how has achieving this goal contributed to that idea?
Greatness is mastering the skill, business or idea that you have put in motion. It is when you know you can replicate something again and again. For example, in basketball having one game of 30 points is a really good performance, but greatness is doing that game after game, year after year. You can duplicate the performance and you know it. It was not a fluke.
For me being able to make another song as good or better than the last is a confidence I have from the time put in. I know it wasn’t a fluke that I made a song people connected with. It comes from really working to find yourself in the activity, strippinng away the fakeness to the authentic self and letting it come out in your work.
Roadmap To Goal Achievement
What is the best advice you ever received that helped you clarify and/or achieve this goal?
I love the quote “the more I practice the luckier I get”. There is so much in there. First, doing something everyday will make the odds of success go up exponentially. Second, you can look at how important consistency is. You won’t notice the progress day to day, but when you look back on where you were a year ago to today you will see amazing progress. I love to take little snapshots of social followers or song plays and downloads and look at how much it has grown year over year. It really gives me a sense of how much things have progressed. Otherwise, it seems like it is a perpetual sense of the next goal.
What are some of the resources or tools that helped you achieve this goal?
Meditation and mental clarity was a huge factor in progress. It’s during meditation that the answers feel like they come into my head. The stillness of meditation helps find the answers within yourself. Secondly, long distance running achieves the same clarity as meditation. After a few miles of running, you can have the space to really find some answers that the chaos of the day does not provide. You can go inward and the endorphins of the exercise are a great combination.
What did you do to stay motivated throughout the process?
I stay motivated by cycling through all the good things in my life. When I’m having a bad day at work, or unable to make a song come out right I cycle through all of my positives. Basically inner talk about my achievements, and such. Also I run, lift weights, meditate, hangout with positive motivating friends, and do something that makes me a little nervous to kickstart my progress. Calling/emailing a radio station or putting out a post to social media that I have been putting off can also be enough of a trigger to a real productive day. I also like to get together with like minded friends and simply ask what they are working on. Then try to find a common connection to a project and off we go! This is currently one of my favorites.
Is there a book that helped you achieve this goal? If so, how?
100 Ways to Motivate Yourself: Change Your Life Forever by Steve Chandler. This on audiobook while running is the ultimate combination to success. I highly recommend!
What blogs and podcasts do you recommend?
I like Today Is That Day. Some great stuff to get you going and keep your mind in the right mental space. They cover different topics and give you a nice breakdown of manageable steps to take, to push forward.
If you were advising someone on how to achieve the same goal or something similar, what specific steps would you have them follow?
I would tell them to think of one concept that always helps me. Picture 5 people on your street who are trying to achieve the same thing as you and they put in more hours of work every day than you. Then think of every street in your neighborhood having 5 people on it who are trying to achieve the same goal. Finally, think that the same is true in every city in the world. This truly puts into perspective the amount of time and effort needed to be great at something. Cultivate non-stop commitment and treat your goal like you are running a marathon. As you get closer to the finish line you see people dropping off and walking. The longer you go the more people give up and you must just keep on to make it to the goal.
What’s the best way for people to connect with you?
People can connect with me through all social media by my name Ben Barbic. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and my website Ben Barbic Music. Also, all of my music is on iTunes, Spotify, Google Play, etc. I would love to connect with people and feel free to ask me any questions or comments and I will try and respond back. Also, I have a YouTube Channel and will be releasing a new song and video called “Too Scared” on June 9th about not being too scared to go after your goals. I am shooting the music video with a great cinematographer named Alan Mascareno and am really excited to share it. Here is a link to my current music video called “Unknown Road” dealing with making the difficult decision to pursue your dreams and leave your current situation behind. Basically taking the road less traveled.
Is there anything else you would like to share before we conclude?
It’s never too early or late to go after what you want. Don’t listen to the naysayers and never give up on yourself.